Author's Addendum: This entry was originally posted on February 9, 2015. By request, I've removed some content and filled in some other places. It remains largely unchanged from the original.
I think, after almost five months of being a member, it's time for me to dispel some of the rumor and innuendo surrounding this website. I'll be discussing what Straight Lads Spanked IS and also what it IS NOT. Let me begin by saying that, yes I'm a paying member of the website so that will somewhat slant my commentary. However, if I wasn't a member of the website, I wouldn't be able to speak as authoritatively as I do about SLS and its culture.
So, let me start at the beginning. Last summer, I was on the internet looking for classic spanking clips from television; the kind that I remembered from my childhood. As people who use Youtube know, when you watch a video, there is a long list on the right hand side of the screen of related videos. It was while I was looking at a classic spanking threat from the 60's TV series "Flipper" that I happened to see something that caught my eye. It was the smiling face of an extremely handsome young man. The caption read "Straight man discusses making gay spanking videos". I was somewhat intrigued because I thought only gay men made gay spanking videos. I had no idea that straight men got spanked by other men on camera. So I was very much interested in seeing this video. Turns out, it was an interview with a young man named Patrick Lee (not his real name). This charming Irish lad was my first introduction to the website.
I became enchanted with this guy and it's easy to see why. The interview revealed that Patrick was supposed to have shown up for a shoot the previous week but had failed to because he had been arrested for getting into a fight in a pub. So the interviewer (who I didn't know at that time, but who I took to be someone involved with the website) informs Patrick that he left the kind of film Patrick would shoot up to the members. Anyway, as much as I enjoyed the interview, it didn't cause me to instantly go and check out the website. I was still too afraid to do that. I was afraid it was going to be like all the other M/M sites I'd visited--in other words, gay. The interview with Patrick led me to another interview, this one with Patrick's real life older brother, Andy Lee. Andy's interview was longer and more involved and also included some clips from a few of his films. What charmed me about these interviews was the way the guys blushed when speaking about being spanked. I found their embarrassment very sweet. This was the first time I noticed that SLS was different. It was during Andy's video that I realized that the man doing the interviewing (whom we never see on camera) is actually the man who owns and runs Straight Lads Spanked. At the time this interview was done, he hadn't had his name revealed yet. So, this interview with Andy led me to actually check out the website. I was blown away by the vast amount of free content, which you don't get on most other sites. One of the free downloads was an interview with a young man named Oliver. It was his interview that caused me to see that SLS is completely different than any other M/M website I'd ever been on. It was obvious from the interview with Oliver that there's a relationship between the SLS owner and the guys he employs as models. I'll list the differences I saw numerically:
1) None of the guys at SLS are spankos. They don't make the videos because they have a spanking fetish. They make the videos initially for the money. But then they return because Dave (the website owner) is such a nice guy and because each guy has their own fans. It's making those fans happy that keeps them coming back. I should add that Dave absolutely refuses to hire guys who are desperate for money, such as guys about to be evicted or who are homeless. He feels that these are temporary situations and he's afraid that once the guy gets the problem taken care of, he'll regret having made the movie.
2) There is absolutely no sexual touching amongst the lads or with Dave. There's nothing at all overtly sexual in the videos (except when the occasional act of masturbation is filmed and then, it's never seen going to its logical conclusion). Yes, you see the lads naked and yes, you see their penises but there's never any mention of it or any sexual talk at all.
3) The guys really are straight guys.They are regular guys with regular jobs and girlfriends. Most of them turn handsprings to keep their families and girlfriends from finding out what they do (more on that later).
4) There's a trust and a friendship between Dave and the guys. They aren't just paid models. Dave has helped some of them get jobs, given them money when they were broke and helped them out of other scrapes as well. I'm not saying that models on other sites don't have trust and friendship, but on the M/M sites I've been on, it doesn't come across.
5) The videos almost always have a highly moral tone to them. Whether Dave is portraying the "Dad" character or the character of the community spanker, Mr. X, he always makes it clear that the SLS world is one where people respect each other. Quite a few of the videos have a scenario where a mother or girlfriend is disrespected in some way and Dave makes it clear that mothers and elders are to be treated with the respect they deserve. Some of the members find this attitude "preachy" and just want to see the guys get naked and get spanked. Most of us ladies on the site (and there are a lot of us) want a build up to the spanking. Things like stealing, lying and not keeping your word aren't tolerated and are dealt with harshly. In fact, part of the charm of the website (for me, anyway) is that SLSville, as we fans call it, seems to exist outside of reality. In reality, corporal punishment has been out of the schools for more than 30 years. So there's a whole generation of people who never felt the cane or slipper at school. Things changed around the home, too because most of the young men who film for Straight Lads Spanked admit they have never been spanked before. Physical discipline used to be a very big part of the English culture and it's in that past era that SLS operates. The young men know when they arrive that a spanking is imminent. In real life, what they would earn a trip over Mr. X's knee for in SLSville, they would probably get clean away with.
Now, I mentioned that Dave plays a number of characters. The first one I saw was Mr. X. Mr. X is the "community spanker". He wears a mask (similar to an executioner's mask) because he lives in the community and if the guys knew who he was, he would get all kinds of retribution. In real life, Dave simply can't show his face on camera. He owns and runs a business and he just can't risk it. So the Mr. X character was invented to explain why the man doing the spanking is behind a mask. When the young men in the community mess up and their parents or girlfriends or employers can't or won't deal with them, they can send them to Mr. X and, for a fee, have them punished.
When he plays the "Dad" character, he wears a mask that was made here in the US by a special effects expert. Dave in real life isn't old enough to be the father of any of the guys (except maybe the youngest ones) and so he has to look older. The mask certainly does this.
The mask has its advantages and its drawbacks for both Dave and the fans. For the fans, the mask is sometimes distracting. It's obviously not an attractive look and it's probably not meant to be. It also sometimes muffles his speech and, as Dave is Scottish, he's sometimes hard to understand anyway. For Dave, wearing the mask is uncomfortable, especially in hot weather. But he doesn't have any other option for now. Maybe someday when SLS is so incredibly successful he can quit his day job he'll be able to show his face on camera. I've seen him without the mask and he's a very nice looking guy. However, there are advantages to the mask as well. Before Dave got the "Dad" mask, he had to film in such a way that his face never showed on camera. So we are left with a man with no head and the guys having to make sure that the angles capture their expressions, but not Dave's. Easier said than done, I'm afraid.
Now, last fall someone on Fetlife (that I consider a friend) posted a writing describing how "ill" Straight Lads Spanked made him. Of course, without being a member or knowing anything about the website, except possibly what he'd heard from others, his other friends jumped on the bandwagon in an effort to get the gay members of Fetlife up in arms about this website, which according to this guy, was run by a homophobic gay-hating piece of crap. He went on to talk about "gay peril" and other topics that made no sense to someone like me, who was a member. So, in an effort to inject some facts into the discussion, I very calmly informed him (and the others who were jumping on the bandwagon) that Dave lives openly as a gay man and that he makes no secret of his fetish for straight young men. I asked, in all seriousness, what sense it would make for a gay man to pour his money, his time and his blood, sweat and tears into a website just so he can promote his homophobic views. Dave is always very happy to discuss his philosophy with anyone who wants to know and so in a private message to this friend, I offered to give him Dave's email address (his public one for the website, not his private one, which I don't have) but he really wasn't interested in going on any kind of fact finding mission. He said it was offensive having the word "straight" in the website name and I offered, publicly, to poll the gay members of the site to see if any of them were offended by the site's name. No, he wasn't interested in hearing the opinions of paying members. He wanted to hear from the gay community at large, most of whom have probably never heard of Dave or his low budget website. No matter what facts I presented or how calmly I debated those facts, no one wanted my opinion and, after I schooled him, he deleted the writing. Now, I told that story just to show the misconceptions and biases that surround this simple website. It all started because a few years ago, Dave began to notice that there was a gap in the M/M spanking market for videos that had a punishment theme without the sexualization of the subject. So he did what any other enterprising person would do and he started his own website to fill that gap. Despite the fact that the website originates in the UK, it was a very American thing to do. Many gay websites openly endorse Dave and his non-gay, non-sexual spanking website. SLS has gay members, both male and female, and many gay men follow the site on Twitter. So my take on this whole thing is that the gay community at large is pretty much OK with Dave and his website.
Now I'll introduce you to some of the lads that make Straight Lads Spanked so special. Please know that, over the years, a lot of young men have come and gone (and a few have come back periodically) so I'm only going to mention guys who are actively filming. First, I want to talk about Oliver.
Oliver has done a lot for Straight Lads Spanked. He first filmed in July, 2012 so he goes back almost to the beginning of the website. He has brought his brother, Fred in to film and also has brought a lot of his friends in. He's one of the best actors on the site and he acts with his whole body, including his incredible eyes. He was the first actor (though not the last as we'll see later) to bring genuine emotion to a movie. I think that that alone should show the casual observer what kind of relationship Dave has with this models. As someone who has spent years in the spanking scene, I can assure you that genuine emotion only happens with someone you trust completely and feel comfortable with. I should also point out the obvious in that it's no easy feat getting a young man to share his vulnerability, but Oliver did that in a couple of his films and if you're a fan of real emotion, then you would have no problem being a fan of Oliver.
Next, Andy Lee. I mentioned Andy before when I was discussing his brother, Patrick. Andy, like Oliver, is a mainstay on the site. He appeared in the first thing Dave ever filmed, before he even had a website. I have no idea how they met, but Andy has shot for a ton of other adult sites and is in fact very active in the adult industry (and not just spanking). Andy has a regular job working on the oil rigs in the North Sea, super dangerous work that you have to be highly trained and in shape for.
As much as I like Andy, I think because of his size and strength he should be the one doing the spanking instead of taking it. He has spanked other lads on the site, including two of his brothers. He's divorced with a three-year-old son. I follow Andy on Twitter and he follows me. He's a charming Irish guy who can melt you, but he's also a shameless self-promoter (not that there's anything wrong with that). I've always believed that if you have it you should flaunt it. And Andy does. He's notoriously well endowed. But big dicks don't really do much for me at my age. I do love his muscles and his ink. In the interview this still was taken from, he said "hello" to me and thanked me for supporting him on Twitter.
Next, I want to talk about Karl. Karl is another one that goes back almost to the beginning. He began filming as an 18-year-old. He was brought in by his buddy, Liam whom he knew because they both boxed at the same gym. Karl isn't great with dialogue, but he can take a heck of a spanking.
Like Oliver, Karl uses his eyes to convey what he's feeling when words fail him and they often do. The thing about Karl was that he seemed to be there one minute and gone the next. In fact, he was gone from the site for nearly two years before returning recently. In a very frank interview, he talked about serving time in jail, his bout with testicular cancer and living in his car. Many of us, who practically watched Karl grow up before our eyes, care about him and I was saddened and horrified to learn that a cancer stricken young man was living in his car (having been tossed out by his girlfriend for texting other women). As much as Karl's plight tugged at my heartstrings, there was another element to this story that made me a bit angry at him. When he got out of jail, he apparently met a young woman with two little girls. As the relationship grew and he moved in, these little girls believed that Karl was their daddy. In fact, Karl posted loving family photos of himself with the woman and her children on his Facebook page. Hopefully, Karl was able to get her to forgive him and let him move back home.
Next, my favorite guy on the site, Wayne. Wayne is one of what I call the Four Mates (I know it sounds like a singing group). Wayne was brought to the site by his mate, Dom. The Four Mates consist of Dom, Wayne, Adam and Harry. Any combination of this quartet is bound to be a hit with fans.
For me, Wayne is the total package--handsome, muscular, a good actor, has beautiful blue eyes, a gorgeous bottom with a tattoo on it and his pout turns me into a puddle of girl goo. His accent drives me bonkers because most of the time, I have a hard time understanding him. Wayne is what most people in England might call a "chav". Google that if you're unfamiliar with the term. Wayne's "character" on SLS is that of a young man, usually a window washer, who can't seem to resist the temptation to steal. He's been sent to Mr. X several times for stealing from customers. He's also played a young man caught smoking pot at school and a friend of Adam's who takes the blame for bringing pot into the house (see a pattern here?).
Next, Wayne's buddy, Dom. I don't know where to start with Dom. He's probably the best actor on the site right now. He's brilliant with dialogue and has natural comedic timing. He's also pretty easy on the eyes and can take a very hard spanking. The bad news is that he marks like crazy.
Next, there's Adam. Adam wasn't even on my radar before I joined. I spent a lot of time looking at the free content, including the preview videos. Adam just didn't look like anything special to me. Then, when I joined I watched his first video, which he filmed with Dom. He was perfect! He has a sweet face, lovely blue/gray eyes, blushes adorably, has cute fangs and does regretful and embarrassed better than anyone on the site. Like Karl and Dom, Adam was just eighteen when he first started shooting for SLS.
In this photo, you see the cute fangs and adorable blush. Adam is quirky and I like quirky. I also think it's entirely possible that on some level he likes being spanked. What I would really love is to see Adam shoot something by himself, without one of his mates with him. I'm not sure if he's shy about filming alone or what, but I would love to see it. He does the domestic scenes very well. He did a very good video with Wayne that remains a favorite of mine.
Adam and Wayne work so well together because they're real life friends. Even their girlfriends are friends with each other. Dave stated that the dialogue between Adam and Wayne that preceded the spanking in this video was the most natural exchange that he's ever seen. That happened because Adam and Wayne have known each other since they were boys. That friendship is part of the magic that happens when any of these four young men film together.
Next, the forth piece in this delicious pie, Harry. Harry came to SLS even before Dom. He was brought by his buddy, Fred, who in real life is Oliver's brother. Harry is a tough guy. Seeing him spanked is a thrilling experience for me. Like Wayne, he's muscular. He has an aura of toughness around him. Wayne shows his vulnerable side, whereas Harry just won't.
Harry is a pretty cool, laid back guy. Dave said that, in the beginning, Harry had a problem getting spanked by another man. Harry comes across on film as a pretty likable bloke. He usually plays bullies and recently filmed a sequel to "Dad Found Twitter" because, in the original film with Dom, many of the high jinks listed were actually Harry's doing. That's another thing I love about SLS...the stories are often connected. I think Harry is still embarrassed about talking about spanking. I think he's perfectly OK doing it, but talking about it is a different matter.
Next, I want to talk about Paul because I find him very interesting. A few people on the website don't like Paul. Either he's too skinny or he doesn't react to his spankings strongly enough or he's not "hot" enough. Also, at 24, Paul is bit too old for some members' taste.
And Paul, although he's not my type physically, is exactly what I love about Straight Lads Spanked. Dave gives us a nice mix of different kinds of guys. No, Paul isn't a muscular "hottie". We have Andy and Wayne and Harry for that. Paul marches to his own drummer and that's what I like about him. He used to be in the Army and hearing him say "Yes, sir!" you get that right away. He's cheeky and defiant and some people don't like that. His personality demands that you conquer him on his own terms. Paul showed up for his first shoot in Spongebob underwear so I liked him right away. I sincerely hope that Dave brings Paul back so that we get to see him again. I would hate to think that Paul doesn't come back because no one liked him.
Next, I want to discuss Dean, a newcomer to SLS. He's nineteen and just shot his first two movies about the time I joined last September. Paul is interesting because he's the first mixed-race guy that I've seen on the site. That doesn't mean that his ethnicity drives the story. It's never been discussed. I just happened to notice it.
Like Paul, there are some people on the website who aren't fond of Dean. I rather like him. He's slim but with a muscular build (rather like Dom) and he's fantastic when it comes to dialogue. Not only does he ad-lib well, but I can understand him. He may have been to the States or something because, while his accent is pronounced, he speaks clearly. I also love his tattoos, which I can't read to save my life. Dean is also demonstrative when it comes to his reactions. That doesn't mean that he screams and wriggles all over the place, but he just lets you know that whatever just happened to him hurt...like a lot. In this first video, I thought he was going to hyperventilate. Anyway, time will tell as to how long Dean's career at SLS lasts.
Next, we have Jay. Jay is one of those guys who goes way back with SLS. He left for a while and when he returned, it was with a bang. He had slimmed down and toned up and he looked fabulous. Not that he looked bad before, mind you, but he just looked better.
I'll be honest and say I never used to care that much for Jay, despite his obvious beauty. He was one of those guys that I always felt overreacts to his spankings. Not that his reactions are fake, mind you. Dave truly only wants to film the models' real and honest reactions and Jay has a very low pain tolerance. However, his last two movies have been gems. He plays a young man banned from competing in martial arts competitions because he was caught using illegal enhancements. His last movie, in which he finally goes home to his father after being gone for three weeks is a total tearjerker, something you simply don't get with most other M/M sites. I commended both Jay and Dave for their parts in that movie. Jay showed he has improved on dialogue substantially. I'm looking forward to more from Jay, though I hope he doesn't leave his cheeky character behind. Even though I don't care for his dramatics in some of his other movies, it's the fact that we get variety with Jay that sets him apart.
OK, those are some of the guys who shoot for the website. I deliberately showed most of them not getting spanked because I want you folks to see their faces. In this section, I'm going to show how great they look naked. Nudity doesn't have to be sexual, let me say that right off the bat. I have a great appreciation for the nude form, whether it be men or women. I think bare skin is the most beautiful thing in the world. So for me, seeing an attractive young man without his clothes on doesn't immediately get me all hot and bothered. But I do love it when I see it done tastefully. Dave uses nudity in the Mr. X films to add to the guys' embarrassment. If it was just about the pain, the "punishments" wouldn't be nearly as effective. Getting put over a man's knee when you're a young man yourself isn't easy for most of these lads, but they say it gets easier the more they do it. And I want to point out that Dave doesn't do all the spanking at SLS. The lads have made films where, for various reasons, they spank each other. But here's a sampling so that you get an idea of the nudity on the group and why you still have to be 18 to be a member.
Here's Adam in his very first video, which he shot with Dom. Adam, as you can see, not only looks great OTK, but he looks great in the raw, too. He's got pale skin so he gets red easily and he has a very cute, slightly furry bottom. I love this photo because not only is his bottom red, but his other cheeks blush so sweetly. It's that blush that I talked about before.
Here's Glen, a cute 26-year-old Aussie guy. I didn't put him in the other section because he's only made one film so far. I have a thing for guys with nice quads (that would be thigh muscles for those of you who aren't familiar with that term) and Glen's are first rate. His bottom also gets nice and red. Hopefully, Glen will be back.
Here's two naked guys for the price of one...Adam spanking his mate, Harry in the wheelbarrow position. This occurred in one of the Spank Jenga rounds. I mentioned before that the guys sometimes spank each other and this is one of those times, during a game or contest. Harry has lost and getting spanked by his mates in this revealing position was his forfeit. Harry got a bit annoyed, but you have to admit he looks very attractive in this position.
Here's Dom being spanked naked by Mr. X. When he made his first film, like many as an 18-year-old, a few on the website criticized him as too skinny and too pale, despite his obvious acting talent. Lo and behold, Dom emerged for his next shoot with a nice tan and some very nice muscle definition. He looks gorgeous OTK, don't you agree?
Here's Harry, also being spanked naked by Mr. X for being a bully. Harry has a lot going for him, including awesome quads and a round smooth bottom that gets really red. Even though he's forcing Dave to deal with his arm here, don't doubt for one second who the stronger of the two is here.
This is the delightful Parker, seen here getting sorted out by Mr. X for being a bully at the bank where he works. I didn't introduce Parker because I don't know if he'll be back. I hope he does more filming because he was terrific with dialogue, was cheeky and had a ton of attitude and also his adorable bottom gets a cute shade of red. Oh, and Parker kicks his feet.
This lovely lad is Tommy. Unfortunately, Tommy doesn't shoot for Straight Lads Spanked anymore. But he was gorgeous, take my word for it. He was a big, beefy guy (and a leg kicker too so that's a plus) with lovely baby blues. When it comes to guys who have moved on, I just sigh and wonder "what if?"
These lovely bottoms belong to Adam and Wayne. They're about to get the belt because they got caught with pot and helped themselves to "Dad's" rum. Now you can see that their bottoms are already red. That's because they have already been hand spanked. The next picture will help explain why Adam's bottom looks so much worse than Wayne's, even though Wayne has bruises that are healing up (from doing a film where he gets the bath brush just the week before).
Wayne and Adam engage in a spanking competition, which Wayne won. Adam's poor bottom was absolutely a mess when Wayne got done with him, showing that Wayne can dish it out as well as take it. Adam did finally give in and I don't blame him. As an incentive to win, Dave always gives the winner twice as much money as the loser. Some site members don't like these competitions because they're so much into the "punishment" aspect that they can't lighten up and enjoy the fun of seeing two straight friends spank each other for money.
This is why I love Andy as a spanker. Few of the lads are big enough to take him on. The "victim" here is Andy's younger brother, Dan. Dan was a very bad boy...he got caught selling drugs. What I love most about this scene with Andy and Dan is the size difference between the two. Dan looks like a child over Andy's knee. Right after this was shot, Dave did an interview with both Andy and Dan where Dan called Andy a c&^t. Dan had just turned eighteen a few days earlier so I'm sure Andy took Dan out for a drink, man to man to make up for it.
Yes, I know I've shown Wayne before, but not OTK. This was his first shoot and that's Dom standing off to the side. To me, Wayne is like Bazinga! He's absolutely the perfect male spanking model. The tattoo on his bottom reads "I Heart Will And Dom". Dom paid for the tattoo and I think getting it on his bottom was part of a drunken dare. I always warn people about being inked under the influence. Don't do it.
While I agree that there's nudity (and a lot of it frontal) there's also moments of friendship and caring, not just with Dave but among the lads themselves. Some of these moments can only be described as heartwarming.
Now, I ask you, who doesn't just love a boy and a dog? This is Karl and Dave's puppy, Daisy in "Broken Curfew". Notice that Karl is wearing a pajama shirt over his clothes because he's going to sneak out of the house and he's exhorting Daisy to keep mum about it. Who among us didn't try this at least once? I'd like to hear from anyone who managed to get away with it.
Many times, Dave has the lads portraying themselves as "on the outs" as they say, meaning that they aren't getting along for some reason. Many of the scenarios involve problems with girlfriends or falling out over some other stupid thing. Here, Adam and Dom shake hands and make up after they accused each other of stealing money they both took.
Even though Adam is obviously more enthusiastic about the handshake than Dom, you can tell by Dom's expression that all is forgiven. This was Adam's first film and I thought he was wonderful in it. Of course, Dom is always fantastic, but I really thought Adam stole the show from him. I think it's sweet though that Dom is shaking Adam's hand with one hand and rubbing his bottom with the other. Oh, the bottom rubs...I could do a whole other post about those.
In this photo, big tough Andy Lee tenderly tucks his younger brother, Dan back into bed after pulling the covers off him and spanking the snot out of him. What other site gives you scenes like this? None that I know of. The fact that Andy and Dan are real life brothers makes this even sweeter. Andy even says "I love you" to him before leaving. I have been on tons of M/M sites and I can guarantee you I never heard "I love you" in any of them.
Domestic scenes lend themselves well to this kind of affection. The next clip I'm about to discuss is still number one on the Top Ten. It stars Oliver as a young man who's sunk about as low as a man can sink. He cheated on his pregnant girlfriend, had to move back home and in an attempt to get some money to sort out a legal problem, he steals his mother's engagement ring and pawns it. This movie is nearly an hour long and that alone should make it popular, but it's the standout performance of Oliver as the poor sod down on his luck that got members all excited. Oliver takes over half an hour of hard spanking, much of it with a bath brush that leaves him bruised and sobbing. Afterward, there's some brief dialogue where Dad tells Oliver how much he and his mother love him. Before he leaves, Dad does this:
A head rub is always cool for me. "Dad" had already rubbed cream on his bottom to sooth it. I should mention that the Bath Brush Beating films are always Mr. X films. This was the first time it had been used in a domestic scene. After that hard beating, I think Oliver wanted some assurance that it was over and this is how Dave showed it.
Two weeks ago, we hit the mother lode. Jay plays a martial artist disgraced by being caught doping in a competition. He spends three weeks away from home, too ashamed to face his father. When he does return, racked with remorse and completely humiliated, he starts crying before any spanking even takes place. This was the forth installment of this particular series and Jay was heavily into his character by this time. I think it's highly likely that Jay brought some kind of emotional turmoil to the character. He begs his father to punish him for the shame he's brought on the family and a reluctant "Dad" does so. When it's all over, eureka, we get the "big moment"...Jay reaches out to Dave and the two embrace as Jay sobs and even Dave chokes up.
I guess I'll close this post by reiterating that there is nothing disgusting or sleazy about the movies that Dave makes for Straight Lads Spanked. Yes, we occasionally get the physical goodies (especially if Andy is involved) but more often than not, it's the emotional aspect, even in the Mr. X films, that ends up being what members love most. I should add that, because Dave is such a presence on the website and answers our questions and takes our recommendations to heart, we all feel great affection for Dave. I'm an ocean apart from him and even I love the guy. It's easy to see why his models love and respect him. And there's nothing sleazy about that.